I like to think that If compliments were currencies, I’d be on Forbes 400; I’d be writing this post on a Yacht, headed somehere far away from this tortous winter. I’d be donating to charity every other day. Okay, enough fluffing; as you’ve already guessed, this challenge is all about spraying compliments like a champagne shower. If you landed here on your own, we recommend reading this post for context.
Your Challenge, should you accept it
This one’s quite straightforward; practice giving one genuine and thoughtful compliment a day. It could be to a co-worker, the cashier at the grocery store, the waiter, the doorman, the old lady at the park – the options are endless. Personally, I enjoy complimenting strangers or new acquaintances. It’s like giving a surprise gift, and they usually don’t reply with “Oh, you’re just saying that because you care about me”.
However, our families and loved ones absolutely deserve kind words too. In fact, it’s a great place to start if you don’t yet feel comfortable telling a random stranger that they have a heart-warming smile. As the saying goes, “charity begins at home”. For people you know pretty well, it’s also nice to go beyond the surface and applaud a personality trait, behavior, or job well done. Can’t find the right moment to say it in person? Leave them sweet notes that they can re-read in the future.
Do you live by yourself and work from home? No problem! If you’re on social media, make an effort to go beyond giving a thumbs up or commenting with three fire emojis on your friend’s post. Say something nice to your pet(s) or plant(s). And no, it doesn’t make you crazy, plants have feelings too. Compliment an actor on a tv show that you’re watching. Compliment yourself! Seriously. Stand in front of the mirror and find something nice to say to your reflection. Again, this doesn’t have to be about a physical trait.
Quick tips on the Art of Complimenting
- Make it thoughtful & specific. Instead of a casual “you look beautiful”, tell them exactly why you think they look good
- Don’t make it about you. You’ve just complimented someone on their bravery? Mission accomplished! There’s no need to also tell them about that one time you challenged a lion in the Sahara
- Say it like you mean it. Nobody appreciates a backhanded compliment
- Keep it nice & short. No need to make things awkward
- Don’t over-do it
Now, go forth into the world and spread little seeds of happiness, my capeless heroes.
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